You can’t make up your mind about something. Actually, you can’t make up your mind about anything. You just swap from one decision to the next. And back again! Everyone gets frustrated with you when you chop and change or hum and haw about what you are going to do or say but whatever you call it, being indecisive is worse for you than it is for the people around you who express their frustration with it.
It can mean that you can’t get to sleep for tossing things backwards and forwards in your head. It can mean that you can’t get started on projects that could have a massive impact on your life. It might mean that you can’t finish something that you have promised to do. It just means stress.
We make hundreds of decisions every day: what time to get up; what to wear; which bus to catch; which route to take; what to have for lunch; whether to say this or that; where to go on holiday; what colour to paint the front door and so on. Some people seem to sail through these decisions, big and small while others can’t make even a simple and tiny decision. They might rely on other people to do it for them (‘I’ll have the same as you’) or spend a long time trying to undo the decisions they have made.
There are reasons why some of us find it so difficult to make even a simple decision. Never in the history of the world has there been so much choice. We are told to make the rational decision, look for scientific evidence and we have begun to lose trust in our instincts. We dread having made a wrong choice because we will look foolish in the eyes of other people.
From a homeopathic perspective chronic inability to make a decision is just one manifestation of your vital force being out of kilter. There will be other issues or problems that run alongside it.
I had a patient a couple of years ago who was told to come and see me by his mother because his prevarication was driving everyone nuts. But when he was telling me about it, it was clearly having a worse effect on him than anyone else. He had started to doubt his choices in even tiny matters, like which tie to wear and whether to catch the bus from one bus stop or another. He said sometimes he would stand on the corner and not be able to decide if to turn left or right. The core of his problem was a dread of living with the consequences of making the wrong decision.
If you are indecisive and feel like you are in the same boat:
- Trust your instincts. They are there for a reason. They aren’t just hooly. They are the rapid unconscious processing of information you pick up from your environment.
- Set yourself a time limit and just make a decision.
- Remember that you will make duff decisions, everybody does.
- You can’t have it all. You might have got to work sooner if you’d turned left and not right. You might have been happier if you’d not ended that relationship, but you will never know. Nor will anyone else. What you decided not to do is a closed book. Move on.
Whether you are Barak Obama making or not making decisions that affect the whole world or you are just you trying to have a good life, remember that not making decisions in life isn’t an option. Nor is always making the right decision.
Whether it is working with patients on their indecision, or years of looking at mine and how it has affected my life I know a lot about making your mind up.
If you want homeopathic help and look to deeper at your indecision then come and see me. Click here and let’s get started.