Hatred feels like such a strong emotion, but it leaves you weakened. Loving kindness might be the answer.
A couple of years ago my friend Kate and I went to see a healer guy in Barcelona. I asked him about how to deal with feeling hate and he showed us the most amazing thing.
He took me outside the room (so Kate didn’t know what we were doing) and asked me to think negative thoughts about her. When we went back in, he asked me to push Kate. With a firm push from me and Kate stumbled backwards and she could do the same to me. This is what hatred does to you he said. ‘How do I not get weakened by hatred then?’ He took me outside again and asked me to send loving thoughts to Kate. With the same push I didn’t move. Nor did Kate. Not only did hating weaken the person I was sending the thoughts to, but it weakened me too. And the antidote was to send love.
Hating someone feels like a strong thing to do. It is a strong sentiment, but it leaves you weak. Not only physically but also emotionally and mentally. Your options are limited, your health is compromised your connection is lost.
Do you know what that is? It’s that feeling you might feel towards a baby, a new lover or a pet when there is nothing but good that you wish for them. Feeling that love and kindness, isn’t normal in our culture. We don’t actually have a word for it hence calling it Loving Kindness, but in Pali it is Metta. In Sanskrit it is Maitrii.
Practising loving kindness has been scientifically proven to improve your health, your sleep and your immune system, so who wouldn’t want to buy in? Probably no one, but although it is simple, it is not easy.
Sometimes it surprises people who come to me for homeopathy that I suggest other practices, but your mind and your body are linked.