You’ve got a high-stress job and both you and your boss expect a lot from you at work. You feel like you’re buckling under the pressure but you just have to keep on. Every time you go on holiday you get ill. You know it’s not a good sign, but you can’t see the way out.
Let me tell you about about a patient of mine; let’s call her Isabel. She works in the finance industry. She looks like a total success story: amazing job, wonderful boyfriend, lots of travel for work, beautiful flat, great friends.
So you can’t stop eating sweet things? You’ve got what used to be called a sweet tooth; what we now call a sugar addiction. You know that it isn’t good for you but you just can’t stop. I get it. Me too. When I eat sugar, and I know that the same goes for you, everything goes out of kilter and that is why I’m always banging on about it and why I’m going to bang on about it again.
Hatred feels like such a strong emotion, but it leaves you weakened. Loving kindness might be the answer.
A couple of years ago my friend Kate and I went to see a healer guy in Barcelona. I asked him about how to deal with feeling hate and he showed us the most amazing thing.
He took me outside the room (so Kate didn’t know what we were doing) and asked me to think negative thoughts about her. When we went back in, he asked me to push Kate. With a firm push from me and Kate stumbled backwards and she could do the same to me. This is what hatred does to you he said. ‘How do I not get weakened by hatred then?’ He took me outside again and asked me to send loving thoughts to Kate. With the same push I didn’t move. Nor did Kate. Not only did hating weaken the person I was sending the thoughts to, but it weakened me too. And the antidote was to send love. Continue reading →
Your life is passing too quickly. Time is going too fast. Every day seems to flash by in a whirr of things that have to be done and your To Do list doesn’t get shorter despite your best intentions.
It’s true that days, weeks, months and even years seem to go more quickly. It’s common across the generations. As a teenager I remember hearing uncles and aunts saying how fast life was going, and my grandparents telling them ‘just wait until you’re my age’.
It is not unusual
Apparently the reasons that we feel like this are because we are either distracted and don’t pay enough attention to each thing that we do, or we have to do things that cause us stress and anxiety and so we don’t concentrate on the time we are not doing them.
Does this sound familiar? You get ill every time you get stressed. It could be a migraine, cold sores, it could be colds, stomach upsets or fungal infections. If this is you, it doesn’t matter what the illness is, it is draining and predictable.
Modern-day life. Ancient body response.
Here’s what happens. Anxieties, worries about work, feeling over-stretched, money problems or just the way your phone never stops ringing, these are all aspects of modern-day living, but they get to you. When your brain thinks you are under threat your body releases adrenalin into the blood stream. It’s a natural response which triggers a raise in blood sugar levels and triglycerides (fats) which are meant to help you when you have to take action. Your ancestors might have been fighting for their lives or running away. Today, you usually can’t physically run away from something stressful and it’s just as rare that you can stop or avoid the problem. When we can’t physically remove ourselves from stressful things we lie awake playing them over and over which causes more adrenalin to be released. Classic vicious circle. You have all the mental worry and no physical action to take to burn off the adrenalin.
You’ve got itchy eyes, runny nose, sneezing. It’s hayfever time again. Or maybe you’re bracing yourself because for you it isn’t tree pollen (which is normally the first irritant) but grass pollen (which is coming soon).
If you are already treated by a homeopath, I bet they’ve told you that you need to be treated out of hayfever season. Why? Because hayfever isn’t an acute illness. Although it might feel like a terrible cold, it isn’t the same thing at all. It’s what is called a recurring sub-acute. This means that when the symptoms have gone away, the illness or disease hasn’t. That is because the disease is the sensitivity to the pollen not the reaction to it. So, even when the season has passed this year, it will almost certainly be back next year.
I’m a huge Big Bang Theory fan. It reminds me of the science orientated, questing, debating family I grew up in. I was watching an episode recently (The Mommy Observation) in which Leonard says to Penny: ‘You don’t go into science for the money.’ To which Bernadette pipes up ‘Speak for your self. Last month my company both invented and cured Restless Eye Syndrome.’ It’s fiction, but what Bernadette is referring to is Disease Mongering.
On my website I have a page entitled ‘Who Uses Homeopathy’ which outlines that homeopathy is used from cradle to grave. I treat couples having difficulty becoming pregnant or maintaining pregnancies through to people who want support in their very last days. Every April I review the previous year’s new patients and what brought them to me. Maybe you will find it interesting to see the results of the year 2014/15.
This blog post is specifically about living with a cannabis user. The debate about cannabis is raging in the media. Is it seriously damaging our mental health or less harmful than tobacco or alcohol? Should it be decriminalised or legalised? What people said probably refers as much to any other addiction as it does to cannabis whether that is alcohol, chocolate, aerobics or tobacco. Cannabis takes you out of yourself. The users thought that was great. For non-users that was a problem.
I talked to people for whom living with someone smoking was a problem.
You’ve got a secret. There are things you’ve never told anyone about yourself. You feel if other people knew they would completely change their opinion of you. In your worst nightmare they’d judge you and you’d be out there, on your own.
More people than you’d think have a secret. In a consultation I might ask someone if there is something they’ve never told anyone. ‘I don’t need you to tell me it’ I say ‘just tell me if there is something that no one knows about you’.